DATING TIPS

 1. Do not give a stranger your name, address, phone number and e-mail  address . For initial communication with the date use the online dating service provider's messenger or email.

 2. Trust but verify. The person at the other end may not be who or what he or she says.Use your common sense. Watch out for some one who seems too good to be true. If any thing makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.

 3. Never include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information in your free profile or initial messages. Stop communicating with any one who pressures you for personal information.

 4. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy; suitors must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. If you suspect someone is lying, he or she probably is, so act accordingly.

 5. Be responsible about romance, and do not fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.

 6. Be careful about sexually transmitted diseases. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention provide some of the most current information available about STD. Bothof you should get  HIV test before any sexual encounter with your new friend. Use of condom  is recommended.

 7. Request a photo. A photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling.

 8. Chat on the phone. A phone call can reveal much about a person's communication and social skills.

 9. Meet when you are ready. The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world.

 10. Watch for red flags. Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags.

 11. You should be concerned if your date provides inconsistent information about age,  interests,   appearance, marital status, profession, education, employment, etc.

 12. You should be concerned if your date never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

 13. Meet in a safe place. when you choose to meet offline, always tell a friend where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with your friend. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own    transportation, meet in a public place at a time with many people around, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present, is often a fine choice. If you decide to move to  another location, take your own car. 

 14. Take extra caution outside your area. If you are flying in from another city, arrange for       your own car and hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to the hotel. call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location  or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. If possible, carry a cell phone at all times.

 15.  Get yourself out of a jam. Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any  way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of  there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on  the    scene   for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger, call the  police; It is always better to be safe than sorry. Dating is never a risk-free  activity, but a little caution will reduce your risk in matters of the heart.

NOTE:  The above safety tips are from " 10 safety tips for your next date" by Trish McDermott, VP of romance- Match.com.

INSTANT BACKGROUND CHECK

Before you decide to meet someone offline it is advisable to do a background check. There are services available online for checking background. People data is one of the popular one.

WhoisHe.com / WhoisShe.com  is another online service available to you for detail background checking. Just click the banner below:

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